Sandra North explains the process: "For a while, someone might go around telling people she's asexual, saying, `I'm not attracted to anyone,' which sometimes is a cover for starting to become attracted to women." If she develops a crush on somebody, she might check the woman's "resume," the electronic profile on Wellesley's e-mail system. "That's actually a pretty big part of Wellesley's sex culture," says Sandra. "That's where a lot of flirtation goes on." It can also act as an informal registry of who's straight and who's gay or experimenting. "One girl wrote on her resume, 'I am now open to dating women. If you want to talk to me, here's my extension,'" Sandra explains.
It helps that dating women is so convenient. "You just run upstairs and there's your girlfriend," says Jess. "Here, you can practically have an apartment set up with your girlfriend. At most coed places, a girl would probably have trouble getting a room with her boyfriend."
And the atmosphere is so open that even the more conservative groups on campus tend to be socially liberal. Sarah Spurgeon, a member of the Wellesley Republicans, says, "I don't care what someone does in their bedroom or whom they marry, and I also think women should be able to play like men do in the battle of the sexes. It is simply a matter of personal freedom." Heather Gay says, "It's an environment where being a lesbian is considered almost cool." She points out that she was embarrassed about her name growing up. "But once I came out at Wellesley, it became a big joke." ....
The Dyke Ball, a dance put on by Wellesley Lesbians, Bisexuals, Transgenders and Friends, is an all-out celebration of female sexuality. "There's no such thing as a normal formal dance like there are at other schools," says Melanie Herman. "Instead, it's more normal to see ten girls wearing wings on their backs." The dress code for the Dyke Ball is "creative black tie," which means that women show up either dressed extravagantly or practically naked. Women routinely arrive nearly topless, or wearing only Saran Wrap or body paint (which inevitably sweats off by the end of the night). The few men who show up come in drag. And over the course of the night, women are "all crazy getting on each other, stripping off their clothes and getting it on with each other," says Michelle. Says senior Charlotte Boutz, "I've seen more T&A at the Dyke Ball than in the locker room." ....
Excerpted from The highly charged erotic life of the Wellesley girl
And parents send their kids to Wellesley and pay all that tuition for what? What a joke higher education has become.
Now I need a drink!
Wouldn't any parent be proud as punch paying $50,000 per year sending their sweet daughter to this school of "higher education"?