Interesting comment.
He is called Tommy and you think he should now go by Tom. I suppose but there are have been some wonderful folks who have chosen to use their childhoot name, at least with friends and family, Ronnie Reagan.
I think of Ben every time I drive through Sand Point, Idaho. That's where I dropped my son Nicky, now known as Nicholas, off at AMTRAK to go to highschool in DC.
Is Tommy a Tom yet?
Ben bares his soul every month in AS. He is a very generous man, and God bless him.
If the person is mature and responsible, and they like to use the childhood name, I suppose that's all right.
But if a child is immature and irresponsible, whatever parents can do to help them mature and grow up would be a step in the right direction. Coddling never helps after about age two.