Maybe in our Oprah culture, "harm" has been extended to include sadness and hurt feelings. However, such things are too subjective to be of any used when determining policy.
I'm quite certain that a young child is harmed by his or her father's suicide in ways that extend well beyond sadness or hurt feelings.
Your whole outlook seems to be rooted in a radical personal autonomy which I reject, however. Relationships between people involve a whole lot more than "feelings"; they involve rights and responsibilities that I consider sacred.