AMEN!
Be direct and ask for what you want, quit obsessing about your weight and quit looking at those dang mazines with the Diet of the Week on the covers, and don't drag out the old laundry list of injustices from years past.
If she doesn't get it, you're doomed.
I did, she didn't get it, she moved out shortly thereafter...I'm free - FREE, FREE!!!!!!!!
The front line of a free man.
Her: "Honey do these pants/dress make me look fat?"
Him: "Yes they do. I love you and will not lie. Now let me help you find something that makes you look beautiful."
Tell the truth but OFFER to help her find the solution. (she may not accept, but be prepared to follow through if she does.)
Face the facts the ladies KNOW they make them look fat and they are just fishing for a lie to enable their delusion they are not fat.
(flame suit on.)