[Conservative Goddess]

"Women who reported usually or always keeping their feelings to themselves when in conflict with their husbands, known as self-silencing, had more than four times the risk of dying from any cause compared to women who always show their feelings, the researchers said."

I think this is true. There is a huge difference between getting angry, arguing/discussing/clearing the air and getting angry and just "saving my breath" because the husband doesn't listen or argue constructively to reach a compromise. Huge difference in underlying stress and damage to the relationship. Arguing and clearing the air is actually helpful....sweeping it under the rug will eventually kill the relationship and I would guess, both partners.

[RSmithOpt]

YOU SAID IT, CG.....how else is the 'making up' going to mean anything if 'it' is swept under the rug. No compromise is really ever reached. The 'making up', in whatever form, is what reestablishes the faith, trust, and understanding in the relationship. It simply makes the bond that much stronger.

I say never get married until you've had 2 or 3 really good disagreements. That way, a person will know what they're in for.....