I was thinking of my MIL when I mentioned passive aggressive behavior...it has been instilled in my husband, and sometimes he nags ME and pursues where I don't want to go at the moment because *I* dont want to be provoked into a blamemeblameyou namecalling contest.
thats not to say I like fighting, either. But aggression comes from both sides. I just love how some of the male posters on here act like its only women who cause damage to a marriage.