[Alkhin]

I was thinking of my MIL when I mentioned passive aggressive behavior...it has been instilled in my husband, and sometimes he nags ME and pursues where I don't want to go at the moment because *I* dont want to be provoked into a blamemeblameyou namecalling contest.

[Alkhin]

And the passive-aggressive behavior is one thing I have just figured out about the family after 15 years. They all get mad at each other, but they don't say anything about it either. I'd much rather have a fight than waiting for some sideswipe of a comment that comes from suppressed feelings. I dont like this about myself, but I do it too, sometimes out of self-defense.

thats not to say I like fighting, either. But aggression comes from both sides. I just love how some of the male posters on here act like its only women who cause damage to a marriage.