I have a friend who was a hospital chaplain. She was talking with a young father who was paralyzed. He focused totally on what he couldn't do anymore for the young daughter that adored him. She focused on the fact that he could be the willing ear when no one else could be bothered. I know I'm saying this badly but she made him realise that he may be paralyzed but he had love and time for his daughter. He saw that he was indeed needed and VERY important.
Good post.