Yes they do and I think they learn what to say by age hmm 11...But reading your posts you do speak the truth even my own brothers would say they were going out with some girl one night that they didn't much care for because of the rewarding end result?
I think you have it figured out, especially regarding "I think they learn what to say by age hmm 11." Adding undue seriousness to 'talk' isn't productive, since I think we all tend to recognize 'talk' and its value (that is, zippo).
As for your brothers, yea, that happens. I think some of that, though, bleeds over into the 'talk' field. That was true in 1955, 1975, and 2005. It will be true in 2025 too, I am sure
I do think that as men mature, they do naturally seek a more substantial and fulfilling relationship with a woman.
The point I raised here was only peripheral, though - as far as his own internal processes are concerned, it's pretty easy for a male to indulge in a sexual tryst with an attractive, fit, receptive woman and have almost no emotional component attached to the episode whatsoever. He may not even like her, let alone love her (he may not even be sure of her name, actually). He may never think about her again, in fact. As a man my whole life (haha) I can tell you that pulling off that stunt is not much of a challenge at all.
The challenge in regards to this issue is twofold:
1. All 'talk' aside, it's not really easy to find these women; and
2. If you do strike gold, women like this tend to just sail through your life - if it does happen, don't try tacking her down 2 months later to relive the adventure. She is most likely off satisfying somebody else's fantasy, and not too much into returning some nameless guy's calls.
Or more accurately, it's mostly just the stuff of fantasy!