Considering the aid is being sent to the countries (who don't seem to be doing a very good job of getting it to the people), I say we stop being so generous!
It reminds me of 9-11. How much money can one family use? If I am correct, I thought I remember a ridiculous sum of money going to one of the countries that had hardly any losses to "repair fishing nets"??
You are dead on! It is as if we are "shamed" by not contributing more. As other posters have pointed out about the private charity efforts this is about dispersment now and not throwing more cash in.