Yep, I am sick of moralists, with only one note to play! You only read a newspaper account. You read what they wished you to know. There is much more unknown!
Many 13 yr old girls are not all that innocent, circa 2005. Some still get sheltered, but many, more than they admit, are involved in all sorts of sexual promiscuity, perversion, and play.
I guess I must have been exposed to too much reality... I've had the opportunity to corral five children into adulthood! Oldest is a cop, next a school teacher, then two mommies/homemakers, and a 10th grade daughter... must be doing something right!
"Train up a child..." Prov 22:6
You have real problems I hope you didn't pass to your children.