my son is 13 and if something like this happened to him, i would be the one doing the dismembering of the perp, before my husband would even have a chance to do anything. i don't see the need for a double standard based on the sex of the victim, regardless of the personal male freeper accounts of not being scarred by the experience. i think it isn't possible to tell exactly what sort of emotional impact it has had. i mean you seem ok now, but clearly it would have been MUCH MUCH MUCH better had you not had that experience at that age with someone that much older.
I'm mostly okay ;) Had some issues as an older teen and it took awhile for me to get over sex being "dirty" -- and a lot of time to get over it on the whole. As an adult when you have that epiphany moment when you realize that teenagers really ARE stupid no matter how "smart" they are. . .and you realize and recognize the decisions you made then for what they were, it's rather like grieving.
It took me a long time to recognize what happened to me as statuatory rape, as well as understanding what that is. I may not want the law in my bedroom, but there are reasons for the age of consent laws and the sexual predator laws being the way they are. I was a victim of a 26 year old predator, and I've moved on since then, but with a lot of help from family, my husband, and growing up.
agreed