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My Addicted Son
NYT Magazine ^ | 6 February 2005 | DAVID SHEFF

Posted on 02/06/2005 7:23:26 AM PST by shrinkermd

"...Nick now claims that he was searching for methamphetamine for his entire life, and when he tried it for the first time, as he says, ''That was that.'' It would have been no easier to see him strung out on heroin or cocaine, but as every parent of a methamphetamine addict comes to learn, this drug has a unique, horrific quality. In an interview, Stephan Jenkins, the singer in the band Third Eye Blind, said that methamphetamine makes you feel ''bright and shiny.'' It also makes you paranoid, incoherent and both destructive and pathetically and relentlessly self-destructive. Then you will do unconscionable things in order to feel bright and shiny again. Nick had always been a sensitive..."

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TOPICS: Culture/Society; Editorial; Unclassified
KEYWORDS: addiction; brightshinyobjects; habituation; libertarianfools; meth; methamphetamine; substance; thankyoulibertarians; wodlist
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For those interested this is the best clinical vignette imaginable on a very difficult subject. It also contains lessons for all --including political ones.

Since this is a public forum, I am unable to speculate too much on this boy's problems. In spite of this restriction, it is possible to see the failures--parental divorce at a crucial age and no tuition direct or indirect as to the meaning of life, mores and so forth. Finally, apart from any clinical value, note the grim reality of widespread availability of substances.

Finally, before puberty this individual was substance dependent or habituated yet people minimized the emerging catastrophe. "Normalization" of serious psychopathology seems to be a huge problem for those lacking in traditional values and beliefs.

The "aha or where have they been keeping this stuff" on the first use of a substance or alcohol is a common finding. Most social drinkers, for example, cannot remember their first drink; many, but not all, alcoholics surely can. Memory is frail and inconclusive at best, but what we remember is also what we are currently thinking about is not a bad explanation.

1 posted on 02/06/2005 7:23:26 AM PST by shrinkermd
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To: shrinkermd

tears a hole in the "drugs are a personal choice issue".

When someone gets addicted, their personal choice becomes a matter for all of society to deal with.

I have seen a bright, sunny little girl turn into a destructive creature that would abandon her own child and steal from her parents to get another fix of meth.


2 posted on 02/06/2005 7:27:54 AM PST by Paloma_55
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You have to love this one:

Indeed, when he was 12, I discovered a vial of marijuana in his backpack. I met with his teacher, who said: ''It's normal. Most kids try it.''

Another 'non-judgemental' triumph of our wonder publik education system.

3 posted on 02/06/2005 7:34:41 AM PST by Noumenon (The Left's dedication to the destruction of a free society makes them unfit to live in that society.)
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To: Paloma_55
Meth is not addictive, it is habit forming.

The only known addictive substances are alcohol, opiates, and barbiturates.

Addictive substances will change your body chemistry so that you will become physically ill upon withdrawal.

Cocaine, nicotine, marijuana, amphetamines, and caffeine do not have these effects.

Of course you can become dependent on them but it is not a true addiction.
4 posted on 02/06/2005 7:38:40 AM PST by Kenny500c
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Then please explain the murderous thoughts and railroad spike through my frontal lobes when I run out of coffee.


5 posted on 02/06/2005 7:43:04 AM PST by eno_ (Freedom Lite, it's almost worth defending.)
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To: Paloma_55
When someone gets addicted, their personal choice becomes a matter for all of society to deal with.

Not if people minded their own business doesn't. Of course there are plenty who are "addicted" to sticking their noses into others' business. Because they feel the need to be a busybody, everyone should be a busybody. Doesn't work for me.

6 posted on 02/06/2005 7:44:26 AM PST by laredo44 (Liberty is not the problem)
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To: shrinkermd
That one druggie has issues is no big deal.

The most important thing here is that WOD remains unchallenged, lots of nice people make a good living pursuing it.
7 posted on 02/06/2005 7:45:21 AM PST by Mark was here (My tag line was about to be censored.)
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LOL I was thinking just the same thing.


8 posted on 02/06/2005 7:45:48 AM PST by cyborg (Department of Homelife Security threat level is GREEN.)
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To: Kenny500c

I couldn't disagree more on Meth being addictive. You DO become physically ill upon withdrawl. I sat and listened to my own daughter describe her month of January on Meth. She used it the first time on New Years and was straight only 3 days the entire month.

She said the first time she tried it she was hooked - she was up for 4 days straight not sleeping or eating and when she started to come down was so sick she had to have it again.

It quickly turned into a $100.00 habit that caused her to forge checks on my bank account resulting in my calling the police and having her arrested. After a week in jail she is clean and going to NA - I just hope she stays off of it.

Reasons? Who knows, but my guess is her father and I divorced when she was 1 and after a few years intermittent visitation he remarried and pretty much blew her off. I think the last straw was last year when she found out he moved out of state and hadn't even told her. No matter what I did, I couldn't make up for the continual rejection.


9 posted on 02/06/2005 7:51:08 AM PST by Clintons Are White Trash (Helen Thomas, Molly Ivins, Maureen Dowd - The Axis of Ugly)
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To: shrinkermd

10 posted on 02/06/2005 7:51:09 AM PST by martin_fierro (_____oooo_( ° ¿ ° )_oooo_____)
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Most social drinkers, for example, cannot remember their first drink; many, but not all, alcoholics surely can.

Uh oh.

11 posted on 02/06/2005 7:54:00 AM PST by wizardoz
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I am sorry to hear that, I hope she stays clean. Losing one of my kids to drugs is one of my biggest fears.


12 posted on 02/06/2005 7:56:06 AM PST by riri
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To: eno_
Then please explain the murderous thoughts and railroad spike through my frontal lobes when I run out of coffee.

I will never forget the time I accidentally bought decaf and didn't discover it until after a week of headaches and acute depression.

13 posted on 02/06/2005 7:57:51 AM PST by wizardoz
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This was excellent. Thanks for posting.


14 posted on 02/06/2005 7:58:02 AM PST by nuconvert (No More Axis of Evil by Christmas ! TLR)
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To: shrinkermd
I have two children that will most likely die from Meth. if they do not get off it. They have been doing the drug for years. I put them both in treatment over the years!! One is 36 and the other is 24. I am just waiting for the phone call.
15 posted on 02/06/2005 7:58:59 AM PST by VNam68
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To: shrinkermd

Very good post. The article is very well written, when I saw how long it was I figured I'd never make it to the end, but it was a good, if very sad, read. A wee bit mawkish in parts, but that is probably unavoidable. I hope this young man stays straight, I really sincerely do.


16 posted on 02/06/2005 7:59:12 AM PST by jocon307 (Vote George Washington for the #1 spot)
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To: wizardoz
Decaf also gives me real bad headaches.
17 posted on 02/06/2005 8:00:21 AM PST by just me (Over 59,000,000 Americans voted not to negotiate with terrorist.....)
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I'm very sorry, that must be heartbreaking.


18 posted on 02/06/2005 8:01:17 AM PST by jocon307 (Vote George Washington for the #1 spot)
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To: VNam68

:(


19 posted on 02/06/2005 8:01:23 AM PST by cyborg (Department of Homelife Security threat level is GREEN.)
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"I asked if he would meet me. No matter how unrealistic, I retained a sliver of hope that I could get through to him. That's not quite accurate. I knew I couldn't, but at least I could put my fingertips on his cheek."


20 posted on 02/06/2005 8:02:35 AM PST by nuconvert (No More Axis of Evil by Christmas ! TLR)
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