I get angry too. At the terrorists. But even if our side isn't perfect in strategy or execution, it is always that way in the crucible of war. The war planners and fighters have messed up so bad in all wars, many many soldiers and civilians have needlessly died or been maimed for life.
I am reading Band of Brothers by Stephen E. Ambrose. It's almost totally incomprehensible to read that during the battle of Market Garden in the Netherlands, preceding the Battle of the Bulge, 8,000, yes, that's eight thousand, American and British troops were killed, wounded or captured in a period of 9 days fighting!!!! And that's one battle in World War II.
I'm a firm believer in making this book, and also Flag of our Fathers, about the 5 Marines who raised the flag on Iwo Jima, and the horrendous struggle and loss of life in that island, required reading in all schools. People need to knowm and never forget, the incredible sacrifices made by our military.
Ask your children what they are reading in school--you will not believe it, in many cases. They are being taught trash and this is why you need to be involved.