Go watch the Mel Brooks movie "The Producers". It will make you feel better about "Meet the Fockers".
What's your point?
Mel Brooks (and Carl Reiner, dad of Meathead) was the one of the writers of one of the few sitcoms I really cherish, "The Dick Van Dyck" show. One episode had "Buddy" going through a latelife barmitzvah because he'd been too poor as a kid to have one. Very sweet --
You've got your putzes, and you've got your menches. Brooks is not a putz.