If the only way she can get to that "better place" is by being starved to death, then it would seem that God is denying her that better place, wouldn't it? Otherwise, why wouldn't He simply call her home?
I would just add that this issue is not a simple one that affords pat answers; I can sympathize with your emotions on this one. But if we are going to err on one side, wouldn't prudence suggest that we err on the side of life?