[ScottFromSpokane]

I think the difference is that a husband whose wife can beat him up would be generally held to deserve scorn.

Didn't you see that episode of The Dick Van Dyke Show where Rob takes judo lessons so Laura won't be tougher than him anymore?

Of course, men who form whiny victim groups and men whose wives can beat them up are probably groups with a great deal of overlap.

[An American In Dairyland]

Laura did not physically maim Rob. In fact she did not want to do the judo thing on him, he had to persuade her. Your analogy doesn't work here.