Posted on 01/13/2005 4:53:28 AM PST by Jim Noble
What does it say? "Kill your husband"?
What BS, huh? If there is one thing mating is NOT about it's men and women being "equals." The whole tone of this article is very sad. Maureen makes it sound like choosing a woman with strong maternal and nurturing qualities is somehow moving down a step. She needs professional help. It's actually VERY feminine and very normal when a woman mothers her man. Welcome to reality, Ms. Dowd. And the world of...um...nature.
Geeez, Maureen, sex is NOT about competing with the man or trying to be an "equal."
Send her 2 dozen red roses right now.
How interesting is the way that thought is presented: "challenge" men?
They still don't get it.
How about smart men have more sense then to marry a fool.
Movie reference.
Make that into a poster or bumper sticker and retire. It is destined to become a classic line.
Shalom.
Yes.... and women always seem to have 'careers' whereas men have 'jobs'!
That first sentence is hilariously false.
I believe that MOST men want a woman who is kind, a woman who is intelligent (or sensible), a woman who shares his interests...if he is fortunate enough to meet that woman and she WANTS to cook, clean, and take care of him...well, where is the problem? These are not bad things. I do the bulk of the housework, including taking out the trash and mowing the lawn, as well as the typical "housewife" chores--the cooking, the cleaning, the laundry, being the primary caregiver to our children. I take care of our finances. I write the thank-you cards. I push the vacuum and scrub the toilets. I am a willing partner in the biblical sense (wink). I do not ever look upon these things as drudgery. I do them because I love my husband and I love our family. Do you want to know what I get in return?
I get a nice house and a new van. I get the occasional bit of sparkly for my wrist or neckline. I get control of the remote (unless there is a Tigers game on, but I can live with that). I get lots of stuff...but its not about the stuff.
I get a best friend and a devoted lover. I get a kind man who draws a nice, hot bath for me when he knows, without my saying, that I have had a tough day. I get to hang out with someone who likes to go for hikes, loves to play Scrabble, rummy, and Trivial Pursuit. I get someone who is willing to put up with my stubborn streak and my Neil Diamond/Barry Manilow obsessions (FWIW, I put up with ABBA and the Bee Gees).
What I get is the sun, the moon and the stars.
Happy (early) Valentines Day, Ash!
In all those great Tracy/Hepburn movies more than a half-century ago, it was the snap and crackle of a romance between equals that was so exciting.
Citing the butch ballbuster Katherine Hepburn as an example sort of says it all here. Sad.
Yes,she does need a shrink. She does sound bitter. I know plenty of powerful smart men who married powerful smart women.
Dowd is unable to see any other reality about men and women beyond the warped and erroneous one she holds in her head.
Bad news. Here's the list of what men want:
Good sex
Comfortable shoes
A warm place to take a dump
That's pretty much it. And at some point, #1 gets tossed out.
Exactly and anyone who has a few neurons firing understands that running a home, particularly with children IS A FULL TIME AND DEMANDING JOB, WHEN DONE PROPERLY! There is no way a thinking and serious person can say, "Hey.. I work 80 hours a week, in a high stress environment, I want to marry another person who works 80 hours a week in a high stress environment so we can raise a family and nothing will have to give."
Reality is you know going in that if you do that, your children, home and relationship WILL SUFFER! If you have to make an appointment with a secretary just to see your spouse, you don't have a marriage.
I am so sick of this "men are small minded pigs and can't handle strong women" nonsense. Some of the strongest women I have ever known in my life were housewives, and feminists would never respect them because they don't buy into their bogus bill of sale.
A Strong woman is not a bitch, and a strong woman is not a woman who is running around berating those around her, that is a DOMINEERING woman... and a Domineering woman is not a strong woman.
I don't know where these folks get off trying to portray a graceful woman who puts her family above all other things and commits herself to that that she is somehow weak or subjugated. A truly strong woman is respected by the men around her because she has earned their respect, she has no need to demand it. She puts others before herself, not because they demand she does, but because she chooses to.. and those around her appreciate her for it and do their best to put her before them as well.. not because they HAVE to, but because they too want to.
Feminists and others confuse being a bitch with being strong.. when in fact, being a bitch is simply compensating for the fact they are indeed not strong at all, only narcissistic and weak.
Good Idea...
Public Notice, I am claiming the Copyright on:
"There is a difference, as wide as the pacific ocean though between being a strong woman, and being a bitch. The first is never the second, and the second always thinks she's the first."
I don't think you understand. A woman is kind and sweet if she asks, "Can I help you?" as often as she asks, "Can you do something for me?".
The difference only has to do with selfishness, not intelligence, career path, looks, or walking location.
Sweet women care about their husbands. B!tches care about themselves.
Shalom.
Maureen, you have a cruel little mouth and you only use it to inflict pain. I stopped reading your column a long time ago because it was only about you. How boring.
I guess I'm confused about the conclusions reached in this article. If men are marrying these women that are there "subordinates" (as an aside just because you are someones superior in a corporation doesn't make you actually superior) wouldn't the inverse be true as well? Namely that these women are attracted to strong men?
If both the men and the women are happy why is the author complaining? Oh wait...how is her marriage?
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