In the case of the Lincoln in Indonesia, if the US Navy has overstayed any welcome (?), it is the welcome of the petty, childish, bigoted Indonesian government. We have not overstayed the welcome of those who are being helped: those Indonesian citizens who their government cannot adequately relieve without outside (our) help.
True.
However, we have to deal with leaders of nations.
And, the citizens to greater or lesser degree support and sustain those leaders in one way or another. Let them learn.