I understand your Missouri comment very well. In my childhood in Kansas we didn't trust those Damn' Redlegs who had burned Lawrence twice. That was some 80 years after the war.
In those days I lived within a few miles of the site of the Battle of Mine Creek. Now I am located almost exactly where Price tried to cross the Big Blue.
On the north side of MO Highway 119 is a gate with two stone towers. One (on the left) supports a pole always flying the American flag. The other supports a pole with the Confederate Battle flag. I must admire the person who keeps these two flying.
The town of Nevada, Missouri was also burned to the ground twice by Northern troops out of Kansas. A twenty mile wide strip of Missouri bordering Kansas was declared a free fire zone by the North, no one was allowed to live there, males were to be shot on sight.
Women suspected as rebel sympathizers in that part of Missouri were jailed in a Kansas City stone building, which mysteriously collapsed one night killing many. This trip wired some of the rebels to commit unspeakable atrocities against known or suspected Yankees, including women & children.
We should never become complacent & smug about senseless violence & the cruel internal strife of other countries, it has already happened here once, and can do so again.