Either times have changed, or you're not telling all you know. As best I can remember, the wive's club knew more about what was going on than the crew did.
There are few who knew....The COB on the in crew was a good friend of mine on Husband's last boat. But to new wives who don't know to wait for the facts come out, it is scary when the wives begin speculating without the facts.
There is always a pot-stirrer who wants to get it going and keep it going.
I've been around long enough to know alot of things but I am smart enough not to tell anyone about what I know....especially over the phone.