I was actually told by some "Christians" to stay with someone who was beating me to a pulp because under "the law" the only two reasons for divorce were "abandonment" and "infidelity". This to me is a matter of symantics....divorce is allowable if your spouse slips up and has sex with someone else for one night but if they use you as a punching bag for months, it's a sin if you divorce him. To me, abandonment doesn't have to be physical. Emotional abandonment is just as valid....If they are beating you up, you bet they've abandoned you emotionally!
Where people make mistakes with the Mal 2:16 verse is what was the context of what was being said. God was talking to the men because he was upset with them for marrying wives and then divorcing them to marry other woman. He is mad at men not keeping there "vows" and divorcing woman over and over again. People misuse this verse and then say it applies to every divorce situation. Even the guy who wrote this article does not understand the verse and the context.
Amen to all you said. I was told the same thing by "Christians" while my ex-husband was knocking me around. I left anyhow. This was back in the '70s when it wasn't a topic people discussed. I left the SOB anyhow, and my name was/is Mud because of it.
You'll get no arguement from me. I know exactly what you are talking about.