I'm of the mind that it actually makes some of us better people. But, of course, that's just me.
My folks divorced and, aside from the fact that you think I'm a despicable human being (which I take no small sense of pride in), I'm actually a very well adjusted person. And, God have mercy on us all, my folks actually get along just fine. It didn't make me afraid of commitment or resentful of my parents. It was tough to begin with of course (I was 12) but I honestly believe it was the best thing for everyone now.
I'm with you on that one, because I am living proof.
Oh, and Denny will be back on Sunday evening in a new episode.
I think if you wait until the kids are old enough to handle it, or don't have kids, it's not a huge issue.
However, my ex got re-married and just split with her husband - and they have seven-year-old twins. I hope those kids don't get severely scarred, but I'm not optimistic.
It did me, Howlin.
And, I'm very thankfull to be better--though I earnestly tried hard at my marriage. I listened, drew my wife out nightly after work; bought her clothes she got more compliments on than those she selected etc. But I wasn't macho enough, interestingly.
Anyhow--obedience is still better than sacrifice.
I can look back and see priorities I should have tried even harder at. And, she had some daddy stuff in the way somehow that in her counseling after the divorce, surfaced and she noted that I was right and a good man. That and $5 will get half a cup of coffee. . .
anyway--there's got to be better ways to becoming a better person than the traumas of divorce. Otherwise, this society is sunk.
But then it's sunk anyway for a lot of other reasons.