Hello, ladies. I've been slowly working my way through this thread off and on since last night. I haven't finished reading all of the posts, but I wanted to respond to you.
I'm not a Christian, but I do believe in God. And I believe that your conscience is the voice of God. I often find myself saying things like "I would never do something like that" then I hear that small voice saying "Oh, but you have" and remember something that I've done that I'm not proud of.
My point here is that if your conscience (God) is not telling you that your divorces were wrong, then they weren't. I've done a lot of things in my life that I know that I shouldn't have and I regret them. But my divorce isn't one of them. I am completely at peace with the decision to end my first marriage and I'm glad that you are as well.
Hugs to all of you. :-)
I'd say somewhat true.
However, 'conscience' can too easily be conditioned by culture; habit; denial etc. to be flawlessly reliable as the voice of Holy Spirit in one's mind.
imho.
"I'm not a Christian, but I do believe in God. And I believe that your conscience is the voice of God. I often find myself saying things like "I would never do something like that" then I hear that small voice saying "Oh, but you have" and remember something that I've done that I'm not proud of."
-- How right you are! I think we all have done or believed something that we thought was right, but after thinking about it, we might realize it was not kind or the right thing to do. Everyone makes mistakes. Sometimes we hurt people by our actions or words, and for my part, I hope I didn't do that on this post. I did try to be as tactful as I could with my replies.
I know for you divorce was not an easy choice, it isn't for most of us here either. But sometimes the situation is so extreme that it requires the actions of a divorce. How many people actually go into marriage with the idea that if it doesn't work out, I'll get divorced? Not many that I know.
A big hug back to you, and many thanks for your rational post that put things back into perspective.
I wish you a wonderful New Year!