"Fine, so have a "Peanut Free" area in the cafeteria, problem solved. Whay have the inverse?"
In my first post I said I'm not sure the school is using the best solution. However, I strongly disagree with the people who think the child is part of some "fringe group."
"This child will not go through life with his/her path being cleared before him/her of peanuts, just better get used to it."
This is true, but as I pointed out in another post, we protect very young children from other dangers -- street traffic, going places by themselves -- simply because they are too young to safely handle these things by themselves. As they get older we don't coddle them as much. Exactly why should this life-threatening allergy be any different?
Your ideas are good! I really think it is more of an issue with the parents than the kids. Most kids (I hope)are thoughtful of others problems. A boy in my daughters 3rd grade class is allergic to peanuts. When we were shopping for Christmas party candy, she wanted to make sure that all the candy we got was peanut free. That way he had candy to eat too! Perhaps it is just my daughter, but I don't think so! I think kids are more thoughtful than we give them credit for!!