well, i'm no feminist--i believe in stay-at-home-moms--but, my father died when i was a pre-teen, and i vowed that i would not be put in the position that my mom--a great wife and mother--found herself in, which was little education and a low-paying job. i don't need the validation...i need the security. [i also need a keyboard for my ipaq so i can use caps and punctuations correctly]
Your's and many others expediency and survival exceptions are noted.
I do however know plenty of women...mostly non-Southern who need validating outside the home.
Another trend I've noticed are stay at home moms who do not raise their kids (and some are Southern). They play tennis, shop and join women's groups to talk about being women. I have a number of them on my street. Wives of doctors and lawyers and such.
Regards and good luck with the keyboard.