From what I understand from women I know that married Mulsim men, they act one way (western, logical, reasonable) before marriage, and then start transitioning to more traditional (read: scummy) Islamic ways quickly afterwards. Those that were able to get out before children were born consider divorce a blessing.
I still cannot comprehend how any Western woman would be so stupid, but I'm not a woman and I guess I must think about implications and consequences more than most people.