Ya know, when people choose to live an immoral life style, that immorality permeates into all aspects of that life style. Therefore, it's hardly surprising that there is violence, cheating, jealousy, etc. It's all part of the package.
So in trying to portray homosexuality as a moral, natural, and decent alternative lifestyle, the truth of that smacks us right in the face. It is NOT moral. The facts need to be stated again and again.
The self loathing destructive behavior seems to track the same results of a drug addict who hates themselves after they score a drug fix.
Nothing will helpful to deal with this issue until society can uniformly deal with this as a destructive behavior. A fetish which needs treatment, not special protection by law.