Sorry, but that's either a bad way of expressing yourself or a crock of shite, IMO.
I'm in Ireland (where you can't get divorced willy nilly, btw...in fact in this country you can't divorce unless you are five years apart, and that's after the legal seperation). So when I talk about marriage, I mean it as something FULL TIME, and, for the majority, FOR LIFE! So if I get married, that is the premise I choose...not a Vegas drive through. I'm the full on Catholic package. However, keeping my name because of my profession would, in no way, reflect on my husband. BTW...I refuse to be 'claimed'. I would much prefer to go into marriage as a mutual expression of love.
I realize there is a long history behind the taking of the husband's name that has to do with land ownership and lineage. However, you didn't see as much of the hyphenating thing until feminism emerged full force on American society. I'm not a feminist and thus it logically follows that my choice would be to change my surname upon marrying.
A woman can be successful "in her own right" and still be known as "Mrs." It has been said that "Behind every good man is a good woman". That is not necessarily true. It seems feminists want to not only take the glory for their own accomplishments but that of their husbands as well. And if it were true, would it not also be true that "Behind every bad man is a bad woman"? :-)
BTW...I refuse to be 'claimed'. I would much prefer to go into marriage as a mutual expression of love.
Who said love is not a part of a "claim" by either spouse? If you love and respect your husband, don't you want to claim him?