I find that few female lawyer types give men credit for your common sense observations.
These are the types of questions that couples should ask individually and together. Whose carreer will come first? If it is a choice of moving for his career or her career which will it be?
For feminists it will allways be about her, for a man it will always be to make sure he can provide for the family.
The great majority of couples I've known over the years where the woman insisted on keeping her last name or hyphenating it with her husband's have ended in divorce. Just an observation. I wonder if there are statistics on such marriages.