I always thought 'self-esteem' was supposed to be what the Bible meant by 'love thy neighbor as thyself'.
Think about it. Doesn't say it's wrong to have self-esteem, just doesn't put you above anyone else.
IMHO.
Sure has gotten twisted and distorted though.
Never thought of it that way - kind of like "mutual and self-respect". But I tend to think of "esteem" as prideful, and "respect" as a bit more deferential.