Proof by louder assertion is inadmissable here. Your stats are still the "reported to the cops" ones, and everyone knows those are skewed by the fact that men either won't or are scared to (because they will be arrested), call the cops on their wives.
When you refuse to look at any other facts other than the ones you keep in your head, that's your business, I guess. But, I must correct you, this study was done in a manner that you, yourself, said was credible:
http://www.vawnet.org/Intersections/GeneralResearch/NIJ_IPV.php