I hate to say this, but ALL the anorexic people I have ever known are totally and completely self-centered. The relish in spending time talking about 'me' and tratinn 'my condition' and what a terribel childhod they had or anything that lets them talk abotu themselves.
Get her out to volunteer for a tough shift at a volunteer shelter or hospital- the hard work will make her hungry and appreciate the REAL problems of others (that are much worse than 'oh I can't eat)
Tough love is the best medicine for this 'desease'
(I am not a doctor, I just play one on the computer)
I know I'm her father, but your description of ALL the anorexics you've known does not fit my daughter. I'll spare you the litany of her good works to date, but trust me. Merry Christmas.