It took a lot of work to keep the mindset and now she openly admits that I was the one doing 90% of the work toward she and I getting along. She agrees that we did the right thing and regrets making it so hard for me at times. I forgave her years ago but she is a back looker. I only look back to get good info on dealing with now and later.
Glad you've mellowed. Most good men one one wife and when that doesn't work out they get weird.
Aww, you're not weird!