Many of the same things you've been required to do. It really surprises me that you (and others) simply refuse to acknowledge God's truth. If you believe that God causes us to be born, then what follows is that He chooses our parents, the society into which we are born, whether or not we'll be born healthy, and so on. In other words, He sets us on a life path. We are responsible for negotiating that path and of being good custodians of the life He gave us. What is so hard to understand about that?
What is so hard for you to understand that God gave us choices?
Take off the blinders and see the light ~ it will set you free.
I don't see how your conclusions follow your premises unless you're rejecting the doctrine of free will. I haven't any objection to predestination doctrine, but how does it follow from the Christian scripture that God chooses all those factors?
If we have free will, then it is the vast nexus of choices made by others throughout history that determines whether we are born, who our parents are, the society into which we are born, whether or not we'll be born healthy, and so on.
Your formulation is outright predestination. Again, I don't have a problem with that per se, but it seems your argument is: our lives are predestined, but we exercise free will.
That is quite a paradox..