According to design.
No moral relativity here. It's not in the eye of the beholder, it's in the eye of the designer.
IOW, it's not up to individuals to decide what is normal. There is a certain standard inherent in the design. If you don't like that, too effing bad.
"effing"
effing? hmmm... is that part of your anger management counseling that you have given to others on this post? You seem to have pinned the reason for the psychosis exhibited by gay men. To what do you attribute your own psychosis (and hostility)?