[Texaggie79]

I also distinguish between racism and a dislike of another's culture.

Simple question. Would you allow your daughter (if you have one) to marry a black man who, otherwise met your standards for being worthy of marrying her. Would you have any reservations whatsoever?

Because, I can tell you, the vast majority men I know well enough to ask that question over here, say they would not allow it, or they would have substancial reservations. And their language seems quite similar to yours. "It's not because his skin is black. It's just that black folks don't live the same way as white folks".

[LadyPilgrim]

Excuse me Tex........happen, not happenen!;-)

[GrandEagle]

Would you allow your daughter (if you have one) to marry a black man
Very interesting question. I was just discussing this with a colleague of mine. The answer is that I would have serious reservations. I would like to say that it was because of the culture or something of the sort, but in reality it would not.
If the young man was an active Christian who had trusted Jesus as his Savior, I would have no justifiable cause for those feelings, but I would have them - yes.
Now, let me put a challenge to you. Flag down 10 black parents and pose the same question to them. I think you would be suprised at your results.

As I said, you have no idea how appropiate this discussion is! I have a friend who's daughter showed up from college with a white guy (he is a colleague of mine who is black). He was very distressed. I have worked with, fished with, and enjoyed fellowship with he and his family for nearly 17 years. He is the very last person that I would consider a racist.
I believe that what causes a lot of friction between the races is this belief that everyone has to have the same culture (not to mention that a lot of people make a lot of money off of hate). The areas where our cultures overlap are areas where we prosper. The areas where we don't are areas where both sides get angry when someone tries to mess with it. It doesn't mean that we can't live together. You may call it raceism if you wish, but it is foolishness to deny it.

Regards,
GE