good thoughts there. You know, call me a bit old fashioned but I have always thought that the parents should be the role models.... for warmth, nurturing, feminism from mom, leadership & support from dad, love from both. Others from school, TV, sports, work will influence... but the kids will usually turn into their parents eventually. Despite all the vigorous denials of "I will NEVER act like that" or "say those things"... one day you open your mouth & your mom or dad fall out. That is life.
For many kids it would be far better for OTHERS to be that influence. If I had a daughter I would not be disappointed if she sought to emulate Ann Coulter.
thanks everyone so far (and to come) for sharing your thoughts here. I have been up since 4 & have an insane weekend ahead so will crash for now.
golly, I am so glad I tripped upon FR a few years ago.. what a treasure it is.