[ken5050]

I have to opine here....I assume you're not talking about the "wanna go out" that comes out of the blue..but if males and females are in any type of group setting..school, work, military, church..one usually has an indication that there is an interest, and most often can easily deflect it before the awkward question is asked...

And BTW, women most definitelty have the upper hand..and I write from the perspective of one who, over the last 5 years, has watched my daughters set their caps for two guys, and then "allow" the men to woo, win, and marry them. I'm crazy about my two sons-in-law, they're great guys, but they never had a chance..never saw it coming..

[RosieCotton]

I assume you're not talking about the "wanna go out" that comes out of the blue..

Actually I was...it's happened a few times and been a shock.

For the most part, I do agree with the rest of what you've said. The downside? As a conservative woman, I feel kinda like I should let the guys do the pursuing. So there's that. Once the relationship is underway...you're probably right in that the woman has something of an upper hand. when it comes to ending things.