[TalonDJ]

Then how do you know for sure that it was a matter of "respect"?

Because she is married to a friend and I refuse to revisit the decision I made. Is that a good reason? I don't want to mess around in 'what might have been' land. Actually the final decision I am sure of and was at the time. The folly of youth was the time and trouble it took me to get to that decision.

[marajade]

I'm glad you feel positive about the decision you made. Doesn't sound to me like you don't know what you want.