It's really not all that new - well, maybe the oral sex thing - Thanks, Bubba.
I lost my virginity in 1972. I was 12. Maybe it was just an unusual neighborhood but this was very common where I grew up, even way back then.
By the time I was 17, I had talked a dozen or more girls into having unprotected sex.
If a girl wished to remain a virgin, she was labled "uncool" and shunned.
Then as now, drugs and alchohol had a lot to do with it.
Some tings never change.
If a girl had sex in Sapulpa Okla where I grew up 1951-1969 people found out about it she was SHUNNED. She lost all her friends. She was made fun of and laughed at and called ugly names. And if a boy was known to be sexually active, he was considered nasty. There was one named Charlie B. and he was so nasty, no one wanted anything to do with him. He had sex with all the "bad" girls in junior high. Most of those girls didn't graduate, they dropped out. Some disappeared, after getting pregnant, they were went to another town.
I remember instances of guys like Bill M. who asked Debi M. out and she refused to go out with him, he had a bad reputation, because he had sex with several girls and it was known. He couldn't get a date with a decent girl.
That was when we were in high school in the late 1960s. I guess where I grew up it wasn't as wild as where you grew up. Thank goodness! There were a lot of pregnancies in high school though. That was sad. A couple of those marriages stayed together. Their kids are almost as old as they are now.
Wow where did you grow up? I know many fellow college students who would like to move their ;-)
I think it was. I'm not saying some kids didn't get involved with sex at 12 back then but it was definitely rare. At my school you would have been considered a major perv - not cool at all.
And where did you carry this out? There were always a ton of people at my house and my friends' houses. Adults were always snooping around everywhere. I couldn't get rid of them until I had a car (and I practically WAS one by then).
That was me, uncool and shunned. At times it was hard but boy am I glad now. It makes it easier to tell the kids that it is doable.
If we could do it they can do it.
So far so good.
I think it is easier for the kids nowadays to remain chaste because it is more acceptable.