Posted on 12/01/2004 12:33:32 AM PST by kattracks
A 29-year-old Connecticut woman pleaded not guilty yesterday to charges she had a sexual relationship with an 8-year-old boy who was her daughter's playmate.Tammy Imre, a part-time receptionist, is charged with first-degree sexual assault, fourth-degree sexual assault and risk of injury to a minor. She remains held on a $250,000 bond.
If convicted, Imre, of Stratford, could serve more than 20 years in prison. She requested a trial by jury.
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Defense attorney Don Papcsi said a psychological evaluation for his client, who has no criminal record, is likely.
He said Imre has her own version of events.
"That's what we're going to be investigating aggressively," he said. "She does have a different side of the story."
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Morals aside, what can an 8 year old do? Unless puberty is happening a lot sooner these days?
The child is supposed to tell the woman NO - because she is a F***ing predator, and anyone who would take a sexual interest in a child is also the kind of person who would take picures or hurt someone for fun. This may not work because any person - male or female - who preys on 8-year-old boys is a danger to children, old people, animals, and anything else withing reach. Any person who thinks they can have sexual relations with a child is not going to let a little thing like consent stop them.
The child is then supposed to go tell his mother, who should beat the **** out of the offender with a lead pipe.
Are you suggesting it's the child's fault here? I don't understand why you seem to be blaming the victim.
No, the previous poster had asked "what's an 8-year-old supposed to do"? That is answer tell children to give when they are approached by a predator - say NO as loudly as possible, and tell another adult as soon as they can. If you notice, I also say that it usually won't work, because predators don't take "no" for an answer - BUT it lets the child know that they have a right to tell an adult "no".
IMHO, as long as the story ends where we know it did -- with her admitting that she was doing a boy who probably had a crush on her daughter -- the beginning shouldn't matter enough to keep her out of prison.
Somewhere, this has to stop. From a father shooting his daughters in a murder-suicide to a mother drowning all five of her children to a flaky mom's having sex with her daughter's single-digit friend right in front of her, there's a psychological excuse for everything.
I would like to think that criminal defense lawyers have a sense of shame and would go public to say, "There's no WAY I would take THIS case," but I never hear one say that. Heck, even that slimebucket Mark Geragos, while wearing his pundit hat on cable TV, said Scott Peterson was toast. He changed his tune when Scott hired him.
The world has gone truly insane. I wonder if this woman has any kind of criminal record?
"I wonder if this woman has any kind of criminal record?"
She does now. She has confessed to doing illegal acts with a minor, and she better do time for it. If it were my son, she'd be praying to God that she were in jail - because I'd make sure she never touched my child again.
NYCVirago, I hope that puts my answer into context. One of the hardest discussions to have with a child is how to protect themselves from predators - because, as adults, we know that predators usually won't stop. But if we can get the child to understand that they have a right to refuse to do what an adult tells them, it makes the child more likely to tell a trusted adult about the incident. While it may not stop a predator from preying on the child, we can hope to prevent further predations from occurring.
Most children think that they are to blame for the incident. You notice the woman told the little boy that "he was her boyfriend" - that this was normal. She wanted him to think that he was an equal partner in this - and she wanted him to think he was just as much a part of it as she was. We know she is a liar, and a criminal - but the child needs to know it, too, or they might try to hide it, thinking they themselves have done something wrong.
Many predators tell children that they themselves are the bad ones - the "look what you made me do" line. They may even tell the child that the CHILD will go to jail for doing these things if anyone finds out... so it is imperative for parents to tell their children that this is a criminal act on the part of the ADULT not the child.
The child has a right to say no, and they do have one duty - to tell a trusted adult about this criminal as soon as possible. And KEEP telling trusted adults until someone listens...
I can't believe she wants a jury trial...does she really think that any sane person is going to see her side of things? There is NOT 2 sides to this issue.. she admitted to molesting a child.. she should be put to death. Her own child would be better off without her.
Isn't it obvious this women is a loon. Why put her in jail? Just put on probation.
Would you just put a man on probation for molesting an 8-year-old? Even if he WAS a loon? No - because you know he'd just do it again.
This woman will repeat offend unless they lock her up and make her understand that this is a CRIME - just as much as if a man did it.
Women who are molesters are just as guilty as men - and just because she has no "priors" doesn't mean she hasn't molested before.
It is done with criminal intent - it is about control, and it is abuse. She is not attracted to this child because he is a "man" or even because he is male - she is attracted to him because he is a child, and he can be controlled. If she is after control, she will find it with whomever she can.
If you do not understand how the predations of adults can destroy the heart of a child, then you need to talk to some children who have been sexually exploited by adults. EVEN WHEN THE ADULT IS A WOMAN AND THE CHILD IS A BOY, the child is still hurt by the exploitation. Eventually, if he is not shown how this behavior is harmful, he may start to do it to other children himself. Will he be forgiven as you say she should be?
She is a predator, and she is not to be forgiven just because she is female. She is a criminal who preys on the weak.
I agree with you. Unfortunately, I've broached this with my 6 yr old already and as much as I can with my autsie son a bit younger. I tell them both that their body is theirs and also that an adult has no right to touch their body(excluding the usual situations where it is necessary--parents bathing them, doctor doing a physical exam). I've told her to NEVER NEVER be scared to tell us if an adult approached her in a 'bad' way and this is one of those situations where she can tell an adult to shove it without getting in trouble.
How does one have a sexual relationship with an 8 year old boy? My youngest son is 8 and I am just stumped on this one. There is no way an 8 year old boy is physically capable of having a sexual relationship with an adult female. Is there?
I agree wholeheartedly. And, I would be the mother to beat the sh!t out of her with a lead pipe as you suggested in an earlier post.
I was molested by a 13 year old female babysitter when I was 8.
I liked it, but they tell me it was molestation nonetheless.
No, reread it. She asked what “can” he do. The answer, without getting graphic, is just about everything except impregnate.
I agree, it’s not the same. I think your experience was borderline, but this one’s way over the edge.
She’s not the same kind of predator as the male who hunts little girls obsessively and robs them of something they value, but she is a whack job that’s likely dangerous.
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