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A Paradigm Shift in Parenting
National Review Online ^ | 30 November 2004 | Stanley Kurtz

Posted on 11/30/2004 2:28:45 PM PST by Lorianne

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To: Calpernia
The cost of living forces families to work multiple jobs to handle all the bills. And that doesn't always work either.

But let's face it, there is a heck of a lot more stuff out there to buy than 50 years ago. Back then houses were smaller, you didn't necessarily need a car, the extent of a home entertainment system was a radio. You could still live pretty cheaply if you want to live like you did 50 years ago, but people aren't going to knock down the door to do that.

161 posted on 12/01/2004 10:17:56 AM PST by dfwgator (It's sad that the news media treats Michael Jackson better than our military.)
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To: dfwgator

You are right. I wasted all our money on that lavish country club we joined.

Or it must be all the manicures and facials I get every week.

Or it must be the monthly spa visits.

Who are you to make assumptions about how we spend our money? No we do not own an entertainment center. No we do not own a stereo. Our newest car is a 1991 plymouth bought used.


162 posted on 12/01/2004 10:36:31 AM PST by Calpernia (Breederville.com)
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To: Modernman
DC is an exception to the downtown housing costs. I live in downtown Lansing. My neighborhood association has been very active in trying to better our community so we often look to similar downtown areas for ideas--what works and what doesn't work. One thing we have found in studying other downtown areas is that housing is always more affordable the closer to the epicenter you are.

I had our house appraised last month--a 4br, 2 full bath, eat in kitchen, formal dining, updates too numerous to name, on a "postage stamp" property. $109,000. In other Lansing neighborhoods, my house would be valued at $150,000 or more.

163 posted on 12/01/2004 10:41:12 AM PST by grellis ("I went to a Basketball game and a Music Awards Ceremony broke out"--discipler)
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To: Hermann the Cherusker
If there is no gene for being an American, than there is no American nation, just a bunch of disparate ethnic groups living in a multicultural society under a common government ... hmmm .... that sounds like liberal propaganda to me.

...and you're starting to sound like some kinda nutcase which is too bad--I agreed with much of what you stated earlier in the thread. Newsflash: There is no gene for being an American. If there is a gene which causes xenophobia, my friend, I think you may posess it.

164 posted on 12/01/2004 10:49:57 AM PST by grellis ("I went to a Basketball game and a Music Awards Ceremony broke out"--discipler)
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To: grellis
and you're starting to sound like some kinda nutcase which is too bad--I agreed with much of what you stated earlier in the thread. Newsflash: There is no gene for being an American.

I think the person who first used the phrase is using an imprecise rhetorical flourish.

Nevertheless, Mitochondrial DNA markers can be used to determine everyones ancestory. Therefore, the amalgamated group I mentioned before will show a common thread of ancestory from the relatively small number of pre-1880 (and even more so pre-1800) immigrants to this country.

165 posted on 12/01/2004 11:02:54 AM PST by Hermann the Cherusker
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To: Hermann the Cherusker; Motherbear
They don't need adoption, they need their parents.

What exactly is your implication, Herm? Did these kids wander away from home one day and find themselves in an orphanage? Isn't it absolutely more likely that the genetic donors of these children left their kids in an orphanage?

As for Jolie...for someone so high-profile and with so much money, I think she would set a better example by adopting a child here in America. She can well afford a team of lawyers to handle the red tape--something which most Americans seeking to adopt cannot afford to do. However, in her defense, I certainly do not recall reading about how she snuck into some poor, unsuspecting villager's hut one night and swiped a couple of kids.

166 posted on 12/01/2004 11:03:35 AM PST by grellis ("I went to a Basketball game and a Music Awards Ceremony broke out"--discipler)
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To: strider44

You should strongly consider more reasonably priced real estate beyond Worcester or in New Hampshire. Sacrificing family size for high priced real estate simply isn't worth it.


167 posted on 12/01/2004 11:04:21 AM PST by Hermann the Cherusker
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To: Hermann the Cherusker
If there is no gene for being an American, than there is no American nation, just a bunch of disparate ethnic groups living in a multicultural society under a common government ... hmmm .... that sounds like liberal propaganda to me.

Nonsense. America is different from a nation like Germany. There is no ethnic component to being American. A Turk living in Germany cannot really claim German identity because "Germanness" involves both an ethnic and culutral component.

Granted, this country (or, at least, large chunks of it) were founded by people of Northern European extraction. However, there have been successive waves of immigration to this country from places that the Founding Fathers would not have considered as being compatible with "Americanness" (such as Ireland, Italy, Eastern Europe). The idea that Anglo-Saxon genes are dominant in this country today is not accurate.

Genetics is not something one can change, but culture is. That is why the US was able to attract and assimilate milions on non Anglo-Saxon immigrants whereas a country like Japan could not attract or assimilate millions of non-Japanese: once a person accepts American culture, they ARE an American.

The Boston Brahmin domination and definition of this country has passed.

A child raised by Americans and assimilated into American culture IS as American as one born to an Anglo-Saxon like John Kerry.

168 posted on 12/01/2004 11:07:33 AM PST by Modernman (Beer is proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy. --Benjamin Franklin)
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To: Hermann the Cherusker
from the relatively small number of pre-1880

BFD! Not a single one of my ancestors set foot on North American soil before 1905--most of them came over in the 1920s. Guess I'm not an American, right?

Being an American--claiming to have allegiance to ANY nation, for that matter--has nothing to do with genetics. Nada, zip, zilch, zero. Ideals, baby. I am an American because I would fight for my country and I would die for my country. Being born here just means I can run for President.

169 posted on 12/01/2004 11:10:48 AM PST by grellis ("I went to a Basketball game and a Music Awards Ceremony broke out"--discipler)
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To: grellis
Being an American--claiming to have allegiance to ANY nation, for that matter--has nothing to do with genetics.

I have to disagree with that statement. Some nations clearly have an ethnic aspect to their definition. You could live in Japan for generations and still not be considered Japanese, whereas Japanese immigrants to this country can become Americans as soon as they adopt this country's ideals.

170 posted on 12/01/2004 11:13:58 AM PST by Modernman (Beer is proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy. --Benjamin Franklin)
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To: Hermann the Cherusker

So your advice is to close my business, move my family further away from the rest of the family, have my wife quite her job...or I can start driving about 2 hours one-way to my business so I can see my new baby for about an hour a day. Sounds like a great plan to me. I just don't know what I was thinking...


171 posted on 12/01/2004 11:16:30 AM PST by strider44
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To: Modernman
Nonsense. America is different from a nation like Germany. There is no ethnic component to being American. A Turk living in Germany cannot really claim German identity because "Germanness" involves both an ethnic and culutral component.

Many of us whose families were here before those immigrant waves you mention subsequently reject this reasoning. We believe that the original American settlers are the definition of the American nation, and that our ancestors not only formed this nation, but created this country to which others subsequently immigrated. We therefore reject the idea that "we are a nation of immigrants" because our ancestors did not immigrate to a new country - they moved from one part of the Empire to another, no differently than if they had moved from London to Glasgow or Belfast.

But more fundementally, a nation by definition is people of common descent. If America is not a nation like Germany or Spain, then American is not a nation at all. Just a land with many different subnations. You are trying to redefine words.

Granted, this country (or, at least, large chunks of it) were founded by people of Northern European extraction. However, there have been successive waves of immigration to this country from places that the Founding Fathers would not have considered as being compatible with "Americanness" (such as Ireland, Italy, Eastern Europe). The idea that Anglo-Saxon genes are dominant in this country today is not accurate.

The first immigration law from 1789 granted citizenship only to "free white persons". Most states required active citizens to be professed Christians or at least deists. Various federal court cases over this resolved that Indians from the subcontinent are not white and could not become citizens, while Egyptian, Syrian and Lebanese Christians are. So the Founders appeared to have every intention that other Europeans could migrate here and become citizens. Even American Indians were not granted citizaenship until 1924. The disabilities on non-white foreigners becoming citizens were not removed until 1952, IIRC, from the immigration reforms in the McCarran Act.

As to Anglo-Sexon dominance, that is still so. The majority of people in the US continue to report to the Census as being of ancestory coming from the original settlers of the US - from the British Isles, from Germany and Holland, from France, and from Scandanavia. The three largest groups are the Germans, English, and Irish. If you also include the many Americans who are Black or Native Indians, you have the overwhelming majority of inhabitants of the US. Asians and South/Eastern Europeans - the two groups of "new immigrants" are a small fraction of the US population - 15% would be pushing it.

172 posted on 12/01/2004 11:22:56 AM PST by Hermann the Cherusker
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To: Modernman
The Boston Brahmin domination and definition of this country has passed.

America has had 3 Irish presidents (Buchanan, Kennedy, and Reagan), 4 German/Dutch presidents (Roosevelt, Hoover, Roosevelt, and Eisenhower) and 36 English presidents (everyone else).

The vast majority of current politicians and movers and shakers belong to those three groups and the blacks. Wake me up in 100 years when someone from outside those groups actually has a chance.

173 posted on 12/01/2004 11:27:20 AM PST by Hermann the Cherusker
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To: grellis
Being an American--claiming to have allegiance to ANY nation, for that matter--has nothing to do with genetics. Nada, zip, zilch, zero. Ideals, baby. I am an American because I would fight for my country and I would die for my country.

You are confusing citizenship with nationality. Try using a dictionary to understand the definitions of words.

174 posted on 12/01/2004 11:28:20 AM PST by Hermann the Cherusker
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To: strider44
So your advice is to close my business, move my family further away from the rest of the family, have my wife quite her job...or I can start driving about 2 hours one-way to my business so I can see my new baby for about an hour a day. Sounds like a great plan to me. I just don't know what I was thinking...

Yes.

Why bother having children if you won't be raising them? You are proposing having another person raise your children for you so you can pay for an expensive house. Don't you see a problem there?

175 posted on 12/01/2004 11:30:33 AM PST by Hermann the Cherusker
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To: OKIEDOC

**I lost my cool for an instance and retorted that she should think about the possibility of spending her eternity celebrating all her vacation's in a very hot environment**



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176 posted on 12/01/2004 11:44:48 AM PST by BizzeeMom ("We cannot do great things. We can only do small things with great love" Bl. Teresa of Calcutta)
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To: Hermann the Cherusker
Many of us whose families were here before those immigrant waves you mention subsequently reject this reasoning.

I notice from your profile page that you are Catholic. Up until very recently, Catholics in this country were not considered "true" Americans, especially the Irish and Italians. It seems that the definition of who can be a "true" American has been malleable through history. Certainly, the idea that Blacks were true Americans would have been laughable up until very recently.

We therefore reject the idea that "we are a nation of immigrants" because our ancestors did not immigrate to a new country - they moved from one part of the Empire to another

Just to give you one example, over 40% of Americans have an ancestor who immigrated through Ellis Island alone. To claim that America is not a nation of immigrants is to defy reality.

But more fundementally, a nation by definition is people of common descent. If America is not a nation like Germany or Spain, then American is not a nation at all. Just a land with many different subnations. You are trying to redefine words.

You're using one possible definition, but another defintion, according to Webster's, is "a community of people composed of one or more nationalities and possessing a more or less defined territory and government; a territorial division containing a body of people of one or more nationalities and usually characterized by relatively large size and independent status." America fits either of those definitions quite well.

As to Anglo-Sexon dominance, that is still so. The majority of people in the US continue to report to the Census as being of ancestory coming from the original settlers of the US - from the British Isles, from Germany and Holland, from France, and from Scandanavia. The three largest groups are the Germans, English, and Irish.

Right there, your definition is too broad. You cannot honestly claim that the Irish would have been considered "real" Americans up until very recently. You pretty much have to exclude anyone who is of Irish (34 million), Italian (20 million), Hispanic (13% or so), Black (12%), Native (1.5%), Asian (1.2%), Jewish (2%), Muslim (1%) from the definition. That's nearly 50% of the country.

177 posted on 12/01/2004 11:50:01 AM PST by Modernman (Beer is proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy. --Benjamin Franklin)
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To: Hermann the Cherusker; grellis
Try using a dictionary to understand the definitions of words.

There is more than one definition of "nation."

178 posted on 12/01/2004 11:51:48 AM PST by Modernman (Beer is proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy. --Benjamin Franklin)
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To: neverdem
But maybe all the new pediatric, psychiatric diagnosing and psychotropic medications in kids does contribute to school shootings.

Maybe it's because these kids were largely ignored by their parents when they were growing up, became depressed, parents again ignored them by medicating them, and the kids took things into their own hands, however extreme. (This is not saying parents who work ignore their kids.)

179 posted on 12/01/2004 11:51:57 AM PST by PLOM...NOT!
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To: Hermann the Cherusker
Wake me up in 100 years when someone from outside those groups actually has a chance.

It's going to take a lot less than that for Hispanics to become dominant in this country....

180 posted on 12/01/2004 11:52:41 AM PST by Modernman (Beer is proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy. --Benjamin Franklin)
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