OK - use that example. If your drunk driving uncle hit a family head on and killed them, should your family be able to write an obituary for him that says something you want to say? Or should the newspaper be the only one saying what they want?
I am just arguing that it's either a paid service where the content is submitted by the family, or it isn't.
I am curious now, what would happen if the family submitted an obituary that says "Aunt Thelma was a real witch and we are all glad she is dead." You never see that.
...get a clue....
I bet you'd be first in line to read the paid Jeffrey Dahlmer obit....