Ah, I see.
The ideal marriage often didn't work for women either. In fact, I don't think there's such a thing as an ideal marriage. But I do think there's such a thing as choosing wisely, sticking together thro thick and thin, overlooking minor faults of your mate, etc.
Maybe there's something to the idea of holding off on marrying until you're older (say mid-20's vs. the late teens as was traditional)....?
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Not "ideal" marriage. "Deal" marriage. Like Bill and Hillary.