The key is, you neither want to force your urbanism on truly red areas nor are you somehow threatened by or angry at people who live in truly red areas. As for myself, I, like you, presently have somewhat the city slicker life (ableit, only barely, as I am literally at the outskirts of the SF Bay urbanized area), although, unlike you, I could, in a flash, move into rural mode with no issues whatever. I am equally comfortable in both environments.
Exactly. If people want to live in the 'burbs or in rural areas, go to church all the time and otherwise engage in activities that do not interest me, why should that bother me?