[Atlas Sneezed]

Your attitude bugs me so much, and I'm trying to figure out why.

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Perhaps you should address my words, instead of attempting to infer an "attitude." Or at least articulate what you believe the objectionable attitude to be.

(My attitude on the issue is that couple should be fully aware of all the costs and benefits, the potential joys and sorrow of child rearing, and then make a decision that best suits their long-term happiness. And except for the fully informed part, that is what most people do.)

[Dianna]

Perhaps you should address my words, instead of attempting to infer an "attitude." Or at least articulate what you believe the objectionable attitude to be.

Looking at my post....ah, here it is:

I suppose it comes down to this... How much value is there in always doing as you choose? To never have to sweat it out for someone else?

And...

I think it's a shame that people jump onto the bandwagon of, "Let's please only ourselves and never do anything difficult because it's so much easier and FUN that way!" There is value in extending yourself for others. People of character do hard things and work through them. They see the reward is in the process of learning and growing.

I apologise for not directly quoting your statement which is (approximately) "Hey, honey let's fly off to Chicago for the weekend!" It might have helped me to be more clear. Your attitude seems to be, "I don't want to have kids because, boy, they'd really interfere in my ability to please myself at every moment (ie fly off to Chicago on a whim).