Your post was warm, compassionate & obviously heartfelt. Thank you for taking your time to share your thoughts and experience on this very emotional topic.
This is a good article:
Michael Scott Speicher: Dead or Alive? Part 5
Dead or Alive? - Part 5: Hope Reawakens
By LON WAGNER AND AMY WATERS YARSINSKE, The Virginian-Pilot
© January 3, 2002
In September 1996, the Navy looked over everything it knew about Scott Speicher.
The early reports about the fireball. That he might have lost his survival radio. What they found at the crash site. No blood. No bones. No body. A good ejection.
http://www.aiipowmia.com/pgw/speicherpart5.html