They did not take the father's name away. They hypenated it AND gave the Speicher name to their new children.
We had to do the same thing with my girls, with the blessing of their happily alive father.
He wanted them (my kid's dad) to have a very stable home with me. It NEVER diminished Mike's role in their lives and they still kept his name with the hypenation.
Please don't judge situations you don't understand.
Please don't judge situations you don't understand.
Did you mean to address that comment to me? If so, please, please go back & re-read my posts. I'm defending the Harris' because I, for want of a better word, 'respect' their situation--I won't claim understanding because I've never faced these dilemmas.