What upsets them the most is the church's assumption that a woman can't make this private decision by herself, for herself. The church argues that the life of the fetus trumps all else - including the life of the mother and victims of rape and incest - and that any argument about choice dehumanizes the fetus. Declaring that women are not stakeholders in decisions about their own bodies, however, dehumanizes them, especially when the person who declares you immoral is a man who will never have to face pregnancy or its consequences. Just once ... once! ... I would like to see some statistics on the number of pregnancies resulting from rape ... just once! Of course, 'rape' may well be construed by some as an 'unplanned' intercourse with the husband.
There is only one church that still views abortion as "grave sin" and fights to protect the life of the innocent - the Catholic Church. If these women are so miserable in their church .... leave! It's that simple.
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