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"So the way I read it, the only way nobody gets hurt is if the boys all turn to buggery, and the girls to long-term committed lesbian relationships -- is that what you'd recommend? "

No. I would recommend both sexes wait until they are old enough to understand the consequences of sex and find someone they can commit too.

"If the boys are having casual sex with girls, then obviously somebody is going to get hurt."

It happens all the time. It is one of the reasons there is such a thing as statutory rape. It isn't nice to take advantage of young girls. Once they are of age, it is presumed they will be old enough to know better.

"Not to mention the teacher's family already being hurt by it..."

The teachers family is the teachers responsibility. They would have been hurt regardless of the age of the boy. Are you recommending adultery be made a crime? It is in much of the middle east.

"Rather than peddling your theories about why there's a double standard, why not focus on teaching the boys to behave properly?"

It isn't a theory. It is a fact. Do you think boys and girls are the same?

Boys should be taught to behave properly. I think the teacher did a horrendous job of that. She should be fired in my opinion, but to claim she hurt the boy in any way is ridiculous.

old enough to understand the consequences of sex and find someone they can commit to.

Ya wanna take a hack at defining that a little more objectively for all of us?

Like by the time a guy reaches about 80 and a gal is about 13?

Thoughts?

but to claim she hurt the boy in any way is ridiculous

You don't have a very good definition for "hurt," it seems.

I would think that you'd recognize the possibility -- very strong -- that the teacher taught this boy things about sexual behavior that leave him with wrong ideas on the subject. He's now less likely to understand the consequences of sex, much less have a good idea of what constitutes a proper sexual relationship. You said yourself that he should wait until he's old enough to understand -- and this teacher has short-circuited that. Yeah, I'd say he got hurt.

That not only hurts him, but it probably also hurts those with whom he comes into contact later in life. He has learned that sex is cheap, and that it is OK to have sex with whoever is willing. It leaves his life cheapened. I will speculate that his experience will lead him to cheapen others' lives as well.